I help the client to explore conflict in a process-based way. This means, looking at the dynamics of a specific conflict, understanding the parts of us which are affected, getting insight into our triggers, and what our needs are. This can be done, for example,  through listening for cues and allowing the individual’s process to unfold. A cue may present itself in the form of a body symptom, an emotion, a visual image or a movement, to be unfolded and amplified. Relational aspects can be explored through role play, role reversal, parts work and interacting with the counsellor.

A conflict counselling session may also involve developing practical strategies for handling the conflict, and building skills and resilience for future conflicts.

This process empowers individuals to navigate disagreements constructively and reach amicable solutions, but most importantly to heal internally, and find personal insight and clarity.

 Benefits of Conflict Counselling

• Enhanced Self-Awareness: Clients gain insights into their conflict styles, triggers, and patterns of behavior.
• Improved Communication Skills: Clients learn effective ways to express themselves and listen to others.
• Strategic Conflict Management: Clients develop tailored strategies for addressing specific conflicts.
• Increased Confidence: Clients build confidence and learn how to support their unique systems in the face of relational challenges.
• Long-term Skills: Clients acquire tools and techniques that can be applied to future conflicts.

What to Expect in a Conflict Counselling Session

A typical conflict coaching session has some structure, yet is flexible to meet the needs and follow the unique process of the client. Here is an example overview of what a session might look like:

Drop in and conflict overview

The client is asked to express their intention for the session and their ideal outcome from the work together. From there the coach and client discuss the nature of the conflict, and explore the dynamics involved.

Internal enquiry and exploration

The coach guides the client through a process of exploration and reflection. This involves examining the client’s feelings, thoughts, and behaviours related to the conflict.  The client reflects on their role in the conflict and identifies any underlying issues, parts, wounds or triggers that may be causing internal distress, or influencing the situation. This may be explored through parts work, feeling cues, movement, role reversal etc.

 Skill Building

During this phase, the coach helps the client develop specific skills needed to manage the conflict. This may include communication techniques, emotional regulation strategies, and problem-solving skills. Role-playing scenarios and exercises are often used to practice these skills in a safe and supportive environment.

Strategy Development

The coach and client collaborate to create a personalized conflict management plan. This plan outlines the steps the client will take to address the conflict. The client may be offered homework or practice follow-up.

Action Plan and Follow-up

At the end of the session, the client develops an action plan that includes concrete steps for implementing the strategies discussed. The client may wish to schedule follow-up sessions if ongoing support is required.

Conflict coaching is a valuable resource for anyone looking to improve their conflict resolution skills and handle disputes more effectively. By working with a skilled coach, clients can gain a deeper understanding of their conflicts, develop practical strategies for resolution, and build confidence in their ability to manage future disagreements. Whether dealing with personal or professional conflicts, conflict coaching offers a structured and supportive approach to achieving lasting solutions.